Month: August 2014
A couple of weeks ago, I had to stay home from church. Rather I needed to stay home and have some alone time with Jesus. Have you ever felt like that? You don’t want to go to church and ruin everyone’s joy. In addition to faking as though you’re okay. That day, I wasn’t. That weekend was filled with a broken heart of unmet love and desire. I’d had it up to HERE with waiting on God. Dear God, I’m 34…..remember me? Well, of course He does. How would He forget? That’s not His character. So, I stayed home and had my own form of church. Music off. TV off. Into His arms and Word I fell. Filling the room with songs of praise yet with talks of despair. I poured out my angst, my emotions and my heart. The conflict of wanting to wait for His best and yet wanting it now was overwhelming. Trying to figure Him out brought on stress. On this day, I found it hard to trust and hard to rest—in Him. Something had to give.
…In other words, I kept it real. And as I did that, I know He grieved with and for me. He knows the agony of wait. He understands the deception unfulfilled longing can bring. It cries out, why have you forsaken me? Like Mary and Martha…..I cried. God, if only you would do this….now.
But in His mind-blowing wisdom, His Glory is far more important than our feelings and our happiness. He wants us to bear fruit that will last. Nevertheless, He is the God who comforts. My feelings were no surprise to Him and yet He. Cares. Deeply.
At the end of the day, it really is all about Him. I know the end of the story, because it’s already done. And because of His promises and standing in Faith, it’s already done for you as well.
Dry your tears. Give Him your heart. Breathe.
One day at a time. He’s with you and for you.
Jesus Wept (John 11:35 NKJV)
“Jesus…sits…between Mary and Martha, puts an arm around each, and…weeps with them. He weeps for them. He weeps with you.
He weeps for you…
Mourning is not disbelieving… A person can enter a cemetery Jesus-certain of life after death and still have a Twin Tower crater in the heart.
Christ did. He wept, and he knew he was ten minutes from seeing a living Lazarus!
And his tears give you permission to shed your own.
Grief does not mean you don’t trust; it simply means you can’t stand the thought of another day without the Jacob or Lazarus of your life…
So grieve, but don’t grieve like those who don’t know the rest of the this story”
As a child, I LOVED puzzles; especially the big and difficult ones. I enjoyed figuring out how the pieces linked together to make this magnificent picture seen on the box. Looking at the picture for guidance, I would often place middle pieces in the wrong place. This error would occur, because their resemblance was uncanny with others. I had yet to realize that even the slightest misshape, would not allow me to place pieces of the puzzle where they did not belong. After repeated mishaps, I began to see just how wrong I was. Searching for the right piece became a surprisingly arduous task. However, one that I was up to the challenge! By now, I knew the answer lie in having more discernment about what I was doing; Rather than putting my focus toward completion.
So many times, I’ve tried to force situations and relationships in the puzzle of my life. Only when I took the time to carefully discern each “piece”, was I able to put people and things in their proper place. We may not have a picture on the box of some sort to refer back to. But we have something far better! Jesus has given us The Holy Spirit, whom we can consult to about ANY matter and develop a relationship with. It is only when we take the time to slow down, listen and allow The Holy Spirit to direct our eyes and ears- only then can we place that specific piece right where it belongs!
John 16:13 – But when he, the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on His own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come (NIV).
What is God showing you at this moment?
May His Peace be with you, until we meet again…..
Hey singles! As promised, I have the much anticipated list of how choosing a mate is similar to purchasing a home. I’ve always been a fan of HGTV (Home and Garden Television), but lately my interest has peaked. Why? I’m flirting with the idea of purchasing as a young single woman. Never did I imagine that my journey would bring me to this point. That list of being married at 25? Well, that’s out the window. And you know what, I’m so glad it is! In my post on last week, the question was asked of how ready are you- to say….I do. I always assumed my initial home purchase would be decided upon myself and the hubby. However, he’s not here- yet. Not one for waiting, and hoping, and hoping that he would come before I build a home of peace, I’m taking the leap. And yes, it’s both scary and exciting! My hands are open and ready to receive what God has in store- as He takes me on this unplanned adventure.
Sitting at work (creative juices always show up there), the Holy Spirit impressed upon my heart something I never considered. The similarities of my home search and mate selection. Let’s be clear on this. I believe firmly in what the Word says: Proverbs 18:22 (NIV) “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receive favor from the Lord.” As ayoung woman, my job is NOT to find. However, ladies when men approach and make known their pursuit, we need to discern. Gentlemen, you also need to discern who you should approach as well.
Genesis 24:12-15, 21, 26 (NKJ) – And he said, O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham. Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water: And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou has shewed kindness unto my master. And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold Rebekah came out….
Verse 21-And the man wondering at her held his peace, to wit whether the Lord had made his journey prosperous or not.
Verse 26-And the man bowed down his head and worshipped the Lord.
God has truly opened my eyes, heart, and ears to the importance of listening and responding to Him. I pray that you too, allow Him to whisper His Words of wisdom and respond with confidence.
Two biggest investments we’ll make in life are, purchasing a home and marriage. Both should not be taken lightly! If your selection is wrong, it can prove to be detrimental and costly in many ways. I’ll provide tips on what we should look for in both love and home.
Tip #1- Don’t let your heart engage, until you gather all the facts!
Proverbs 4:23 (NIV), Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
Seeing pictures of this beautiful condo in my desired neighborhood set my heart in motion. Brazilian cherry wood floors, stainless steel appliances, master suite, etc. Wow…I truly was impressed and smitten! I tried so hard (I thought) not to “fall” for pictures on a screen, because I knew in reality they could just be a decoy. But it was too late. I allowed my heart to make up its mind, without knowing everything I could. That night, while saying my prayers, I told God just how much I wanted that particular place. And He answered that night with a dream that left me thinking. “Something” was not right about my potential choice. My inkling was later confirmed as I spoke with the owners’ agent. Disappointed and grateful, I walked away from what I thought was a gem.
It was okay for me to like it based on pictures I’d seen. But to fall in love on those facts alone? Well, that’s a resounding no! You see, I did not take the time to truly research and gather facts. Pictures are just pictures. Lately these days with technology, anyone can be fooled. I’ve met guys who appeared handsome and had “the look” I was interested in. But on the inside, a different story indeed. Discernment is so crucial in every aspect in our life. So much so, that God has given us instructions on what to do: Guard your heart, it is the gatekeeper of our emotional state. Our heart is the key to well being. Let’s save ourselves some trouble and go into relationships (and house hunting) with a heart of calm. Gather your facts, pray about it (wait for His answer), and then let your heart engage or walk away!
In what way(s) can you guard your heart?