Choose Wisely!

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        Hey singles! As promised, I have the much anticipated list of how choosing a mate is similar to purchasing a home. I’ve always been a fan of HGTV (Home and Garden Television), but lately my interest has peaked. Why? I’m flirting with the idea of purchasing as a young single woman. Never did I imagine that my journey would bring me to this point. That list of being married at 25? Well, that’s out the window. And you know what, I’m so glad it is! In my post on last week, the question was asked of how ready are you- to say….I do.  I always assumed my initial home purchase would be decided upon myself and the hubby. However, he’s not here- yet. Not one for waiting, and hoping, and hoping that he would come before I build a home of peace, I’m taking the leap. And yes, it’s both scary and exciting! My hands are open and ready to receive what God has in store- as He takes me on this unplanned adventure.

Sitting at work (creative juices always show up there), the Holy Spirit impressed upon my heart something I never considered. The similarities of my home search and mate selection.  Let’s be clear on this. I believe firmly in what the Word says: Proverbs 18:22 (NIV)He who finds a wife finds what is good and receive favor from the Lord.” As ayoung woman, my job is NOT to find. However, ladies when men approach and make known their pursuit, we need to discern. Gentlemen, you also need to discern who you should approach as well.

Genesis 24:12-15, 21, 26 (NKJ) – And he said, O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham.   Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water:  And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou has shewed kindness unto my master.  And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold Rebekah came out….

Verse 21-And the man wondering at her held his peace, to wit whether the Lord had made his journey prosperous or not.

Verse 26-And the man bowed down his head and worshipped the Lord.


God has truly opened my eyes, heart, and ears to the importance of listening and responding to Him. I pray that you too, allow Him to whisper His Words of wisdom and respond with confidence.

Two biggest investments we’ll make in life are, purchasing a home and marriage. Both should not be taken lightly! If your selection is wrong, it can prove to be detrimental and costly in many ways. I’ll provide tips on what we should look for in both love and home.

Tip #1- Don’t let your heart engage, until you gather all the facts!

Proverbs 4:23 (NIV), Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

Seeing pictures of this beautiful condo in my desired neighborhood set my heart in motion. Brazilian cherry wood floors, stainless steel appliances, master suite, etc. Wow…I truly was impressed and smitten! I tried so hard (I thought) not to “fall” for pictures on a screen, because I knew in reality they could just be a decoy. But it was too late. I allowed my heart to make up its mind, without knowing everything I could. That night, while saying my prayers, I told God just how much I wanted that particular place. And He answered that night with a dream that left me thinking. “Something” was not right about my potential choice.  My inkling was later confirmed as I spoke with the owners’ agent. Disappointed and grateful, I walked away from what I thought was a gem.

It was okay for me to like it based on pictures I’d seen. But to fall in love on those facts alone? Well, that’s a resounding no! You see, I did not take the time to truly research and gather facts. Pictures are just pictures. Lately these days with technology, anyone can be fooled. I’ve met guys who appeared handsome and had “the look” I was interested in. But on the inside, a different story indeed. Discernment is so crucial in every aspect in our life. So much so, that God has given us instructions on what to do: Guard your heart, it is the gatekeeper of our emotional state. Our heart is the key to well being. Let’s save ourselves some trouble and go into relationships (and house hunting) with a heart of calm. Gather your facts, pray about it (wait for His answer), and then let your heart engage or walk away!

In what way(s) can you guard your heart?




Posted on: August 4, 2014, by : admin

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