When the Past comes knocking- Your Solution to Forgiving Yourself

Regrets. God, why did I do that? If only I could have, I should’ve known..….The list can go on and on. I must confess, I’ve had a difficult time when it comes to forgiveness. I’m not hinting about forgiving others (although it can be quite challenging).

What I’m referring to is letting go of your past.

I can easily think of moments where impromptu pity parties were surprisingly on the agenda. Recalling how years of singleness was spent with the wrong people in terms of giving my heart away. Fortunately, they were oblivious to that fact. However, self assessment forced me to look at my hand and responsibility to guarding my heart.

Lord, I can’t go back and change things- and I wish I could! Each tear carried those words- until something happened.



Have you ever been there? The place where you’ve cried long enough and answered with, no- you can’t go back.

Before you start to regret time wasted, I believe God wants us to look at things from his perspective. He may not have ordained your situation or mishap(s). However, His Grace has the remedy for our regrets and answers to our next divine appointments.

1) Focus on Christ, not on self– Taking yourself hostage, overshadows the sacrifice Christ made for you: Jesus died for our sins: Past, Present, and Future. Because He is all knowing, our arrival at this point does not take Him by surprise. He doesn’t want us to wallow in despair. Instead, Worship Him because we were not overcome by our past. For that reason alone, our pain can become our praise! John 10:10, The thief does not come except to kill, and to steal, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.

2) Unpack your bags and Rest- I’ve learned that it takes more energy to carry the past around and it affects every area in our life. Not only does it slow us down physically. But, our perception of the present and future appears differently. In addition, temptation to get to the next “venture” may not be the best course of action- at least right now. Jesus is calling us to give our burdens to Him and just rest. For some, this can be difficult. Resting allows the soul to be still. At this place, God can sit with us and speak to our hearts. Won’t you let Him? Matthew 11:29, Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.

3) Be Intentional about your Future- After much needed rest, arriving at the intersection called, What will I do now is inevitable. After I forgave myself and let go, I decided to approach things differently. Instead of just doing…..I asked the Author and Finisher of my my Faith- God. Surprisingly, my question of What will I do next transformed into, Lord what would you have me to do?  This time around, I had a plan. What I love about Him- He doesn’t leave us in the dark. This plan is for us all: Proverbs 3:5-6, Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not into thine own understanding. But In ALL thy ways acknowledge God and He will direct your path.

Turning the corner to a brand new perspective and brand new year, I knew my  past and years of crying about it was buried. I chose to move forward and have decided to forgive myself. After all, Christ has forgiven me!

Can I just say, the freedom of self-forgiveness is liberating! When the past is knocking at my door, my response is- Christ has already paid the price, it’s over.

Here’s your call to action:

If you find yourself stuck in the past, pray and ask God for strength to let go, forgive yourself, and healing for your heart. He’s done it for me and I know He’ll do the same for you!

2016 is waiting and God desires for you to bury the bags of your past and run to your divine destiny. He’s waiting…..



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Posted on: January 25, 2016, by : admin

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